Ever since I began trying to reduce all aspects of the gay universe down to their being socially and emotionally stunted in childhood, so many other pieces have been snapping into place.
For instance, women are somewhat more likely to support gay marriage than men,* but their outrage and defensive posturing is so much more extreme than men's when it comes to gay issues. Women are fairly apolitical, and only get that passionate when it comes to topics that strike at the individual woman herself and her kinship sphere, both real and figurative, where she plays a mothering role.
How do gays possibly fit into that narrow range of “the personal is political” issues?
Having observed countless fag hags and their gay BFFs during college and within the past several years, I now see that the female is indulging her maternal instinct with her Peter Pan friend. Aside from those mini-doggies that such women also choose as surrogate babies, you couldn't ask for a more childish grown-up for the woman to treat in a motherly, or at least big sisterly way. Your garden variety man-child today would be an inferior choice, since he's pretty lethargic and plugged into video games all day long, more like an adolescent, whereas the queer skips, claps his hands, and is generally more hyperactive, like a real child.
This applies not only to women who are actual fag hags, but also those who would like to be, yet who live where gay BFFs are in short supply.
Thus, when a homophile female hears the vaguest attack on the normalization of gay deviance, she takes it personally as an attack on a close member of her kin, whether her own small child or her kid brother. And nothing sets the mama bear a-roarin' like an outside attack on her defenseless young 'uns.
This also explains why there's such a panic about “bullying” nowadays. It's always about normal kids teasing or harassing the gay kid. Before the pro-gay movement took off, women in their role as figurative mothers for the young generation were more concerned with serial killers, drug dealers, kidnappers, pedophiles, and so on. Now that those problems have lightened up, they've taken in sissy kids as their new figurative offspring and have switched their targets to other kids who hurt their figurative kids' feelings.
Here is a first-hand account from a lifelong fag hag:
You see, I have been around them since I was a little girl and – if we’re really being honest – growing up, all I wanted was a gay best friend. And I wanted my relationship with said best friend to be like the one between Will and Grace. That special friendship with someone who loves you to the moon and back, would do anything for you and who you just click with.
Someone who loves you to the moon and back, would do anything for you – that's not a friend. She's clearly looking for the unconditional love of a dependent younger kin member, like a grateful son or grateful kid brother. Of course when the queer inevitably starts behaving like an ungrateful son, she'll flip out and feel he's violated the bonds of kinship, rather than the lighter offense of acting like a poor friend. She does mention that her gay BFFs have included “people who I’ve loathed and who have hated me just as much.” Those damn ungrateful faggots just don't appreciate how much I give as a mother!
I think it’s easy to see that this is a community that I feel very strongly about. It’s my home in a sense.It’s a community that has been my life for a number of years and one that I am defiantly proud of. I will argue gay rights and marriage equality with anyone who cares to disagree with me. I will protect and nourish my close friends to the lengths of this earth. I am a fiercely loyal friend and I have a strong maternal instinct. I have a lot of friends but there is a very select bunch who I hold extremely dear. I literally believe that my friends are the family I have hand-picked for myself. I do not know what I would do without you. You make me smile, laugh and cry.
Now it all comes out. Close friends are not people who you “protect and nourish,” which is clearly an example of the maternal instinct, a phrase she uses explicitly. The gay community is her home and a hand-picked family. Unlike with an authentic family, though, she cannot feel a sense of wonder looking at her children, who are given to mothers and not hand-picked like baubles for her jewelry box (another tellingly shallow metaphor that she uses without shame). Nor will she feel pride at watching her children grow up and live their own healthy and productive lives, since hers are permanently stunted in childhood, doomed to make the same self-destructive mistakes forever – dating drug addicts, catching VD, etc.
To wrap up, there are hard data showing that homophile women are opting out of real marriage and out of having real children. The General Social Survey asks three questions that get at homophilic tendencies – do you think homosexual sex is never wrong, do you agree that they should be allowed to marry, and how many of them do you know well enough to trust, talk about important issues with, etc. The first two options don't even require you to know any in real life. The GSS also asks how many children you have and what your marital status is.
Let's start by using the “gay sex is never wrong” question to identify the homophiles, and restrict respondents to reproductive-age women (ages 18-39). The homophiles are far more likely to have never been married (54% vs. 40%), and far less likely to be currently married (37% vs. 50%). On average the homophiles have 0.4 fewer children, and have a much greater rate of childlessness (65% vs. 48%). Essentially the same numbers come up using the “let gays marry” question to identify the homophiles. A similar pattern of differences shows up with the “confide in at least one gay” question, although both groups show lower rates of marriage and children since this question was only asked in 2006, rather than back through the 1970s.
So homophilia and fag-haggery really do stem from a desire to avoid marriage and having children of one's own, just like with those airheads who spend more money pampering their micro-poodles than they would by putting the fruit of their womb through private school. It can be no surprise that they get so ferocious when someone speaks out against treating their screwed-up pseudo-children as though they were normal, healthy, and well-behaved.
* 50% to 42% in the 2010 General Social Survey
GSS variables used: sex, age, marital, childs, homosex, marhomo, trtgay