tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post114564130042573225..comments2024-03-27T23:28:20.274-04:00Comments on Face to Face: Never make a pretty woman your wife?agnostichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12967177967469961883noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-72352255178394012082008-05-11T08:33:00.000-04:002008-05-11T08:33:00.000-04:00The problem with that strategy wrt finding a long-...The problem with that strategy wrt finding a long-term mate using this strategy is that she will eventually adapt to the values of your social circle and if in reality you aren't that great a catch this may lead to feelings of regret and tension as she compares you adversely to those around you.<BR/><BR/>Much better to become a 10 yourself. Looks are much less important than you think (and one has a good deal of influence over presentation, physique, posture etc). Confidence can be developed later in life although the process of transformation can be demanding and painful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-1167247128259846912006-12-27T14:18:00.000-05:002006-12-27T14:18:00.000-05:00Anonymous,If you're really looking for intelligenc...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>If you're really looking for intelligence rather than looks there are several avenues open to you. First, I'd suggest deciding what kind and amount of intelligence are you looking for---are you looking for a math/science geek woman, a woman say 2 SD above the mean with a balanced mental portfolio, or a woman who is in the 1 in 1000 or 1 in 10000 mental leagues?<BR/>The women you want definitely do exist (I'm marrying one next month), but you have to find them in an environment where they're not romantically overvalued (its probably going to be difficult if they're, for instance, engineering undergrad students, but not necessarily so if they're degreed professionals working as engineers (the romantic marketplace is a lot less efficient after you finish college, something that you can make work for you). Here are some hints that might help you in your search:<BR/><BR/>If you're religious, you can work this angle pretty well---there are a LOT more women than men in most denominations of most religions (about the only exceptions are really small churches that are highly orthodox and Moslems).<BR/>In a lot of marketplaces, eharmony works pretty well also--typically the male-female ratios are pretty good (think of all the touchy-feely stuff in their ads that probably makes your skin crawl as a male, women statistically eat that stuff up---most of the women I dated through them had a lot less matches than I did).<BR/>Best of luck to youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-1148081578083894402006-05-19T19:32:00.000-04:002006-05-19T19:32:00.000-04:00What strategy would you recommend for someone who'...What strategy would you recommend for someone who's nearly indifferent between physical 10s and 5s (though sub-5 is unacceptable), instead prioritizing intelligence? In my experience the competition for very smart 5s is actually significant; I'm wondering if I'm simply not looking in the right places, or if no magic strategy exists.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-1146360021967426222006-04-29T21:20:00.000-04:002006-04-29T21:20:00.000-04:00yeah but what if i just wanna get laid?yeah but what if i just wanna get laid?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-1146113864956992392006-04-27T00:57:00.000-04:002006-04-27T00:57:00.000-04:00On the other side, I'm sure most of us have had a ...<I>On the other side, I'm sure most of us have had a couple of times where we've mistakenly believed someone to be more interested than they actually were.</I><BR/><BR/>The curse of an overactive pattern recognizer.agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12967177967469961883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-1145648850670007232006-04-21T15:47:00.000-04:002006-04-21T15:47:00.000-04:00Now this is useful advice. It's counterintuitive, ...Now this is useful advice. It's counterintuitive, too, but on reflection it rings true with my experience -- four times in my life I've been in a situation where I liked a girl but assumed her to be "out of my league", then later found out that she was attracted to me too. I know for a fact that at least two of them significantly underrated their own physical appearance (which probably did have a lot to do with their social milieu), and the other two showed no signs of being snobby or especially aware of how good-looking they were.<BR/><BR/>The harder problem (for me at least) is with extracting signal from noise, as in your example of slowplay being misconstrued for lack of interest. With two of the aforementioned four, I had no clue that they were interested until other people told me. I'm sure this has happened several other times without the benefit of third-party informers -- my ex g/f accused me a couple of times of passively letting other women flirt with me, which was a surprise to me because it simply hadn't occurred to me that that's what they were doing. On the other side, I'm sure most of us have had a couple of times where we've mistakenly believed someone to be more interested than they actually were.Matt McIntoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14268874489737727182noreply@blogger.com