tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post6408218695540236211..comments2024-03-28T18:59:21.172-04:00Comments on Face to Face: Codependency as a sign of anti-cocooningagnostichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12967177967469961883noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-14290809231227516302013-11-16T01:08:03.834-05:002013-11-16T01:08:03.834-05:00"For instance, most soldiers are trained to b..."For instance, most soldiers are trained to be codependent towards their superiors. Yet nobody would say they weren't masculine."<br /><br />well, codependent is the wrong word in teh this case. but, the point is that, in more dangerous(high crime) times, people have to be more willing to depend on others if they want to survive.<br /><br />-Curtis<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-85735633930728929952013-11-15T13:45:03.160-05:002013-11-15T13:45:03.160-05:00"I suppose you could say I'm a bit turned..."I suppose you could say I'm a bit turned off by the "grrl power", really independent types."<br /><br />At the time I couldn't put my finger on why, but I never liked those girls either. Now I see that they weren't about "girl power" in a collective or communal sense, but about cocooning -- let's each of us girls isolate herself from the boys.<br /><br />We'll periodically check in with each other, give lip service support from a distance, etc., but not really be open to one another or depend on one another. We have to stand strong on our own.<br /><br />All that talk about sisterhood was really about isolation and hibernation.agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12967177967469961883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-13394890643389966442013-11-15T13:40:40.481-05:002013-11-15T13:40:40.481-05:00"Codependency is simply not masculine."
..."Codependency is simply not masculine."<br /><br />Right, but for the same reason it wasn't very common among men in the old days. It primarily affects women.<br /><br />It was only that handful of guys who would have had no trouble playing the "sensitive guy" part in an '80s teen / young adult movie, who listened to The Smiths, etc.<br /><br />The childishness of today's dismissive avoidants is more widespread and noxious.agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12967177967469961883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-24215526092565671752013-11-15T13:25:09.187-05:002013-11-15T13:25:09.187-05:00For instance, most soldiers are trained to be code...For instance, most soldiers are trained to be codependent towards their superiors. Yet nobody would say they weren't masculine.<br /><br />-Curtis Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-68239015665871649742013-11-15T12:07:39.640-05:002013-11-15T12:07:39.640-05:00Maybe not full-blown co-dependent, but at least wi...Maybe not full-blown co-dependent, but at least willing to, some of the time, let someone else call the shots. <br /><br />-CurtisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-62860637118850773442013-11-15T11:35:16.603-05:002013-11-15T11:35:16.603-05:00"Codependency is simply not masculine."
..."Codependency is simply not masculine."<br /><br />You're right, but at the same time, somebody is going to have to submit for anything to get done. (Though I agree, it shouldn't be the boss). Agnostic has written how Millenials have problems making friends with each other. I guess part of the reason is that nobody is willing to become codependent.<br /><br />-Curtis<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-45551084385685458812013-11-15T09:17:49.981-05:002013-11-15T09:17:49.981-05:00My boss is 49 years old. That would make him 23 in...My boss is 49 years old. That would make him 23 in 1987. The amount of sweaty upper lip codependency he expresses is gross. Every day its "we should do this, right?" Or "that sounded good, right?" Or "You want to do this, right?"<br /><br />Its like a sperg constantly asking a woman each step of the way, "you like me right?" "Do you like to kiss?" "You would like to go home with me right?"<br /><br />Codependency is simply not masculine. Gritnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19346366.post-14752168710391699052013-11-15T08:25:39.479-05:002013-11-15T08:25:39.479-05:00Just last year I was talking to a girl who mention...Just last year I was talking to a girl who mentioned her codependency. I argued that I'd like to see a little codependency in a woman. She gave me extreme cases in which I agreed it was unhealthy, but I always wanted a woman to kinda depend on me and lean on me. At this point I shouldn't be shocked we also agree on this!<br /><br />That relationship never went anywhere, but it was interesting to get another's opinion. She is 29, like me. I suppose you could say I'm a bit turned off by the "grrl power", really independent types. And I think they might not be as attracted to me as well! Although I can find a couple cases to the contrary. FWGnoreply@blogger.com